Modern Weddings: It’s Not All Narcissistic
Whilst modern times demand contemporary alternatives to old-school or traditional ideas about wedding accessories, with modern wedding centerpieces such as monogram items being very ‘in’, there is still a great desire for retro-simplicity, in the accessories and the essence of the day.
Many current or recent brides to be may well be considerably shaken by events in the past few weeks that have led to modern weddings becoming very news-worthy, with the wedding of Chelsey Clinton being a staggering multi-million dollar event and with the Rev Dr. Giles Fraser, the canon chancellor of St. Paul’s Cathedral inspiring more than the average contemplation in his ‘Thought for the Day’ on radio 4 with a scathing opinion on the overblown, narcissistic productions that are modern-day weddings. Sad, but true possibly when you consider the ‘celebrity’ culture that sets such importance on negotiably talented individuals and how they lead their lives. However, are the activities of the rich and famous and ‘celebrities’ the measure by which all brides to be want to be found accountable?
At all weddings, the bride is the center of attention but the day isn’t just about her, or even her husband, it is about wanting their day to reflect what they want their marriage to be about: being together and sharing – through sharing the day with those they love and sharing their commitment to each other for the rest of their lives together, so it isn’t really about how much the dress costs or hiring a ‘look at me’ limo to get to the ceremony or having an exotic honeymoon. More and more couples are looking for low-budget weddings but most don’t want to tie the knot alone to achieve this. They want to have a good party with friends and to feed them well: this is where most of the money goes on cheaper weddings. Modern weddings based on traditional values are the way to go – it is not all about flamboyant wedding centerpieces, a coordinating entourage of bridesmaids or first-dance training as the current media seems to believe is the most important part of becoming wed for a latter-day couple.
So, if you are getting wed soon, take heart. In an ideal world the media wouldn’t generalize and should credit couples with a bit of sense – we do know what a wedding’s really worth, and we’re not talking money!